Change - The Way Its Always Done

Change the way its always been done

When we think about how we always "do things," it can bring up a lot of fear.

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The fear of change can be overwhelming.

However, the allegory of, 'The Eid Kabsa,' is a simple story I've written to help you to understand why change can be beneficial to your overall happiness.

First, when we continue to do things the way we always have done, without analyzing our behavior, thoughts, or feelings we can become stuck.

As a result of being stuck, we may repeat what we have always done without realizing that we are creating unhappiness for ourselves.

Here is an example of how this might show up in your life.

Noticing when you're stuck

You're frustrated at the end of the month because you overspent your food budget.

However, your spending behavior doesn't change the following month.

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And, you're frustrated about having blown your budget again at month's end.

This behavior goes on for months, years, and decades.

Meanwhile, you haven't examined your spending, changed your behavior, or experienced a different result.

Conversely, with some self-analysis, you could have been well on your way to experiencing a positive change in your budget woes.

In conclusion, you can become stuck when you don't ask yourself:

Does it still serve me to spend money on food the way I always have?

The benefit of self-analysis

When we do some self-help, self-reflection, and self-analysis we:

  1. Think about how we are doing things.

  2. Ask ourselves if it would help if we changed a behavior.

  3. We think about whether or not the way we have always done things still serves what we desire in our lives.

Based on the Christmas roast story

I remember a story about a Christmas pot-roast.

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It cautioned us human beings to constantly ask ourselves:

"Does the way I'm doing things still serve me?"

There is a lot to unpack in this simple sentence, so, we demonstrate the need to change--through an allegory.

In this tale, I take the American, Christmas roast story and turn it into a story about a family celebrating the second most significant holiday in the muslim tradition--Eid al-Adha.

For the reason of demonstrating that we are more alike than we are different.

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The allegory of the Eid kabsa

Four generations of women were in the kitchen.

They were preparing chicken kabsa, a traditional Saudi rice and chicken dish for Eid (Eid al-Adha) dinner.

First, the youngest woman asked—“Ummah, why don’t you use the underside of the chicken to make the kabsa?

Next, the mother replies, “I don’t know. It’s the way my mother always did it.

Ummah, why didn’t you use the underside of the chicken to make kabsa?”

The grandmother responds—“My mother always did it this way.

Dearest Ummah, why didn’t you use the underside of the chicken to make kabsa?”

Thus, the great-grandmother, overcome with laughter said—“I didn’t use the underside of the chicken to make the kabsa because it didn’t fit in the pot.”

As yourself--Does the way I'm doing things still serve me?

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